Step Three: Trust in God
Key Principle: Decide to turn your will and your life over to the care of God the Eternal Father and His Son, Jesus Christ.
Addictions are an interesting thing. You remember me saying that they are often a way of dealing with life in an unhealthy way. We’ve all seen the movies of people, usually women drowning their sorrows in a gallon of ice cream.
I believe it takes great integrity to recognize that addictions aren’t just about those addicted to porn, drugs or alcohol. I honestly believe every person could benefit from going through the ARP program. Addictions and habits come in many packages. So let’s name a few.
(Note: This is not an attempt to point fingers at anyone, there are many things on this list I am currently working on. This is just to help you personally reflect on where you may be at. There are many more addictions and habits not even listed. This is really between you and the Lord.)
Are you in the habit of constantly finding fault with those around you? Conversations around the dinner table consist of the mistakes of others and a spew of judgemental comments come out about how they need to do things differently? If you do this often and on a regular basis you could have an addiction to fault finding.
Do you obsess with fixing others problems and find yourself completely unhappy unless others conform to your beliefs? You have an addiction to trying to fix others.
Do you seek flattery and compliments and only feel good about yourself when others give you praise? This can be an addiction.
Along the same lines, do you have to constantly check your phone, see how many likes or comments you have and can’t seem to leave it alone? That’s an addiction.
Are you constantly comparing yourself to others and can’t seem to let it go? This could be an addiction.
Are you so busy that you have to get a caffeinated beverage just to get through to the next task? You’re running faster than you have strength and you could have an addiction. (I’m referring to situations where one neglects to properly fuel the body with healthy foods and nutrition. This could just easily say junk food and sugary treats. I’ve been caught in this trap so many times and nothing destroys health faster.)
Do you spend hours in a leisure activity and neglect those things which are important too? That can be an addiction.
Do you have to watch sports, or a favorite program no matter what and you’re not willing to give it up for something more wholesome or valuable? This could be an addiction.
Do you spend hours gaming on the computer and neglect all real social experiences? That’s an addiction.
It’s really simple to figure out if you have an addiction that you need to take care of. All you have to do is pray and ask the Lord to show you your addiction, your very own weakness and then be willing to be honest with yourself and others.
I invite you to take an honest look at your life and find those weak areas. The third step of the program is being willing to turn your life over to the will of God. Pray about it, is there anything your resisting. Go through the 12 steps of Change and see what God can do with you. When we humble ourselves before the Lord, allow him to show us our weaknesses, trust God and listen to Him, He will make something out of our lives so much more beautiful than what we could do on our own.
Elder Maxwell taught:
“This submission to God’s will is hard doctrine. It requires us to rededicate ourselves to His will at the start of each day and sometimes every hour or even moment to moment. As we are willing to do so, we find the grace, or enabling power, to do what we could not do for ourselves.”